Ah good question! If I had a shiny golden coin for every time someone asked me ‘Where do you find the time to do X!?’ I would be a very rich bunny. For those of you who know me well, I most certainly do not have a problem filling my time. I like to discover new places, meet up with friends, stay active, make things, my mind runs at 100mph with ideas of new recipes I can try out. I am constantly in drive mode.
To add a bit of
market colour I also have a full time job in financial services. I leave my home between 6:15-6:45 daily and return at 7:30-8pm. I also tutor part time to keep up my language skills and try to get to the gym/workout 5-6 times a week. I always cook and take in my own lunch everyday and don’t live with my parents anymore so have to do all the house chores as well – boo 🙁 And of course other hobbies include blogging, vlogging, baking and cooking!
So where do I find the time? Well, I think the better question should be where do I make the time? I love to use the analogy of juggling. If you want to learn to juggle you may start off with practicing throwing and catching one ball in the air to get the hang of the hand-eye coordination. That is great buuttt you aren’t really going to become a proficient juggler if you never move on to two balls. You then move on to two, get comfortable and want to add a third. This is where things get trickier. You have to focus your concentration of three balls at once and you don’t want to let one fall. During this moment in our lives we feel great, we feel like we have a challenge and it is something that is manageable. We can add more events/hobbies/commitments into our lives at this stage that will stretch us a little, like trying to throw the balls that tiny bit higher or we may even want to add a fourth ball. But, what we don’t want to do is end up adding a fourth, not being able to catch it and then subsequently letting all the other balls drop because our attention was distracted. This is me trying to be all airy fairy and say if you cram too much sh*t into your life you will burn out and then you won’t be able to do diddly squat!
You know you and so you do YOU.
Everyone is different. I, for example, don’t sleep for as long as other people so I gain a lot of time there. I average about 6 hours per night during the week and perhaps 6 1/2 – 7 hours at the weekend. I don’t feel tired or grumpy, my body can just naturally cope with that amount of sleep. That having been said, I also don’t drink and never go ‘out out’ so I am in bed by 10:30-11pm every night. I also don’t watch muuuuch TV, I like to watch films but I am not one for reality TV (I did just finish Stranger Things though and oh my gosh that was worth it and I miss it already 🙁 ).
I am a firm believer in people being able to achieve anything they want, but really want. If we put our minds to it we can get/have what ever we want. Because we will either find a way or we’ll make our own way there. I know that if I want to get fit and stronger this year I need to make sure (and the key thing – I WANT to make sure) that I find time to do my HIIT sessions or get into the gym. This sometimes means waking up at 5am to get to the gym before I leave the house to go to work or means that I need to wake up at 7:30am on a Sunday to get to the gym and back before I start tutoring. These are all sacrifices I have to make.
There has to be a balance though. I know that at the moment I cannot juggle anymore balls and in fact I really need to consider at the moment the possibility of losing one before I drop them all.
Most importantly you need to think about what it is that is making you happy at this moment of time in your life. Or what isn’t making you happy that you need to change. If you feel a lack of achievement in your life, add in some goals to hit. If you feel exhausted take some time out and chuck away a few balls. If you really feel that you want to do something but ‘can’t find the time’ start prioritising your life. Keep a tracker diary for a week. Make note of how many hours you spend watching TV, or in the Pub or sleeping or cooking or out with friends instead of with your other-half (or vice versa!), find where you need to balance your time. Our lives can be thought of as trying to balance the books, our assets and liabilities need to be balanced. We can’t always give and not get anything back in return. The areas of life that drain us need to be balanced with those that fulfil us. I do feel physically exhausted sometimes at the end of a week but I make sure I have my moments of comfort. At the moment this is quite bizarrely a coronation chickpea sandwich smothered in chutney with a hot cup of tea followed by some dark chocolate! :L I know its weird but I have put the coronation chickpea recipe below in case you are also a weird specimen like me and view this as ‘comfort food’!
Recipe –> 1/2 can chickpeas washed and drained smashed with, 1 tbsp of raisins, 2 tsps of tumeric, 2 tsps of gram masala, 1 tsp of ginger, 1 tbsp of coconut yogurt and 2 tbsps of almond milk. Put in between two slices of wholemeal seeded bread smothered in caramelised onion chutney!
So don’t worry no one is perfect. Yes I do a lot, but there is also a lot I don’t do. After all, I am the boring Vegan who doesn’t drink… well I like a mocktail or two 😉